I received a message from a woman who lives with her boyfriend,
asking if I could go down on her.
She said that when she has sex with her boyfriend, he does go down on her and use his fingers, but
it ends up being like, “That’s not the spot… never mind,” which actually leaves her feeling sexually frustrated.
When you give him a proper blowjob but he treats you so carelessly in return,
you stop feeling loved, and your desire to have sex with him starts to fade, right?
She wants to satisfy a desire she can’t fulfill—and it’s hard to bring up with her boyfriend.
That’s exactly where a “licking dog” comes in!
What’s more, she’s never actually climaxed before.
With her current boyfriend—or any past boyfriends—
she’s had moments where she felt like, “I’m about to come…” or “I can’t take it anymore!”
but she’s never actually crossed that line.
I get the impression that a woman’s first orgasm is hard to achieve unless various factors come together just right.
I think it’s pretty tough to make someone come for the first time on a first date, but I want to do my absolute best to meet her expectations.
While I was getting ready—brushing my teeth and such—
she asked me, “Aren’t there practically no guys who actually like going down on a woman?”
and told me I was a rare find.
It’s true—for 99% of men, cunnilingus is probably just a means to an end: sex.
I think men who don’t need to ejaculate—who actually prefer cunnilingus or enjoy serving their partner—are quite rare.
In my case, during my first sexual experience in high school with an older woman,
she taught me that “sex is meant to make a woman feel good,”
and she even gave me a book by Adam Tokunaga? to read.
I only remember the gist of it, though.
I learned a lot of know-how from that woman,
and I naturally came to understand that sex means serving a woman.
When it came to cunnilingus, I was thoroughly taught to lick slowly and gently, and to be careful when licking the clitoris, watching her reactions closely.
It was almost like a special education program, haha.
What I want to convey to you, the readers, is that
the difference between cunnilingus that feels good to a woman and cunnilingus that doesn’t
is whether or not you’re putting your “heart” into it.
This is where it gets really deep.
There isn’t a single woman who wouldn’t be delighted
to be caressed gently and carefully while you take your time
exploring her erogenous zones, right?
When it comes to sex in general, the difference between men and women is striking:
For men, sex is mainly about the time spent penetrating,
but for women, it’s about the whole experience, isn’t it?
From the relationship with your partner, to how you build up to that moment, to the way you’re caressed.
Even with a guy you thought was cool before your first hotel date, or a guy you liked,
haven’t you ever had the experience of him being sloppy with foreplay, or giving you cunnilingus for just five minutes—leaving you completely dry—and then immediately penetrating you, which totally killed the mood?
If you’ve ever thought even once, “He doesn’t seem to like going down on me” or “He seems to be forcing himself,”
you can’t ask him to do it yourself, and even if you really want him to go down on you more, you end up holding back, right?
I think women are generally more attuned to their partner’s subtle cues than men are, and their emotions can be quite complex.
What about the opposite? A “cunnilingus enthusiast” who absolutely loves going down on you.
With gentle, careful tonguework, he focuses on the spots where you react with pleasure,
and if he keeps it up like that,
you’ll start to think, “He’s licking me so deliciously,”
“He’s been licking me the whole time without saying a word… he really loves this,”
“He’s been licking for an hour already, but he doesn’t seem to be getting bored at all,”
You’ll feel at ease with this “licking dog,”
and with your eyes closed, the tension in both your body and mind will melt away, allowing you to focus entirely on the pleasure.
In my opinion, a woman’s sensitivity increases when she feels “loved” and “cherished.”
On top of that, when it comes to a man’s tongue technique, it’s not just about whether he’s skilled or not—
it’s also very important whether he “actually enjoys the act of serving” in the first place.
When it comes to a woman’s orgasm,
it’s actually quite common for a technique that worked best for her last time—let’s call it “A”—
to be less pleasurable than a different technique, let’s call it “B,” this time around.
This happens not just with cunnilingus, but with fingering as well.
You might find yourself thinking, “Huh? Last time, this part felt best at this pace, and this movement worked best…”
(Though I don’t do fingering unless the woman specifically asks for it.)
It also seems that sensations can change if she hasn’t been sexually active for a while (and is starting to forget what an orgasm feels like).
It really makes you appreciate the mysteries of the human body.
To put it simply,
men absolutely need the ability to sense a woman’s subtle cues,
and to become the best cunnilingus partner for a woman, you should have the feeling of “I want to do this for her.”
In other words, my view is that unless you’re a submissive man, you’ll eventually end up engaging in self-centered behavior.
Having that feeling of “I want to do this for her”
allows him to keenly sense her reactions and engage in trial and error—thinking, “Maybe this licking technique would be better next, or does she prefer this?”—
so he can constantly strive to provide service that satisfies her.
Furthermore, seeing the “licking dog”’s devoted demeanor allows the woman to surrender herself more fully to pleasure, creating a synergistic effect.
I don’t even know why I started spouting such high-brow ideas on a perverted blog like this.
I started writing this because I realized there are still many women out there struggling with the same issues as the one in this post.
Even women who are nervous or tense during our first meeting—
within an hour of me starting to please her—
will grab my face or hair and press me against her, or squeeze me between her thighs while moving her hips.
When she actually says, “That feels good, keep going,”
I truly feel that I’m being useful as a “licking dog,” and I feel joy from the bottom of my heart.
Sorry to keep you waiting.
Here’s the video.
I didn’t realize it until I watched the video back, but I have bedhead—so embarrassing…
I was staying overnight for work, took a shower, and fell asleep right away, so when we met afterward, I looked like this.
59:00 –
Maybe we ran a little short on time.
She kept making sounds of pleasure the whole time,
and although you can hear her say “No… no… I’m scared…” repeatedly in the video,
I guess she was scared because she didn’t know what would happen once she crossed that line.
After it was over, she lay on the bed in a daze,
and when she stood up a little while later, she pointed to her lower abdomen
and said in surprise, “It feels like everything below here isn’t even part of me anymore!”
Later on,
she told me, looking deeply moved, “I’m not sure myself, but maybe I experienced something like a ‘shallow orgasm’?”
and “That was the best I’ve ever felt—it was incredible.”
I really wanted to help her experience even more than that,
but since there are so many factors involved in reaching orgasm, it was difficult.
After all, female orgasms vary so much from person to person,
so I figured that if she was satisfied, then I’d fulfilled my role as a cunnilingus partner.
Thank you so much for using my services this time!
