I received a message from a woman who lives with her boyfriend,
\nasking if I could go down on her.<\/p>\n
She said that when she has sex with her boyfriend, he does go down on her and use his fingers, but
\nit ends up being like, \u201cThat\u2019s not the spot\u2026 never mind,\u201d which actually leaves her feeling sexually frustrated.
\nWhen you give him a proper blowjob but he treats you so carelessly in return,
\nyou stop feeling loved, and your desire to have sex with him starts to fade, right?<\/p>\n
She wants to satisfy a desire she can\u2019t fulfill\u2014and it\u2019s hard to bring up with her boyfriend.
\nThat\u2019s exactly where a \u201clicking dog\u201d comes in!<\/p>\n
What\u2019s more, she\u2019s never actually climaxed before.
\nWith her current boyfriend\u2014or any past boyfriends\u2014
\nshe\u2019s had moments where she felt like, \u201cI\u2019m about to come\u2026\u201d or \u201cI can\u2019t take it anymore!\u201d
\nbut she\u2019s never actually crossed that line.<\/p>\n
I get the impression that a woman\u2019s first orgasm is hard to achieve unless various factors come together just right.
\nI think it\u2019s pretty tough to make someone come for the first time on a first date, but I want to do my absolute best to meet her expectations.<\/p>\n
While I was getting ready\u2014brushing my teeth and such\u2014
\nshe asked me, \u201cAren\u2019t there practically no guys who actually like going down on a woman?\u201d
\nand told me I was a rare find.<\/p>\n
It\u2019s true\u2014for 99% of men, cunnilingus is probably just a means to an end: sex.
\nI think men who don\u2019t need to ejaculate\u2014who actually prefer cunnilingus or enjoy serving their partner\u2014are quite rare.<\/p>\n
In my case, during my first sexual experience in high school with an older woman,
\nshe taught me that \u201csex is meant to make a woman feel good,\u201d
\nand she even gave me a book by Adam Tokunaga? to read.
\nI only remember the gist of it, though.<\/p>\n
I learned a lot of know-how from that woman,
\nand I naturally came to understand that sex means serving a woman.
\nWhen it came to cunnilingus, I was thoroughly taught to lick slowly and gently, and to be careful when licking the clitoris, watching her reactions closely.
\nIt was almost like a special education program, haha.<\/p>\n
What I want to convey to you, the readers, is that
\nthe difference between cunnilingus that feels good to a woman and cunnilingus that doesn\u2019t
\nis whether or not you\u2019re putting your \u201cheart\u201d into it.<\/p>\n
This is where it gets really deep.
\nThere isn\u2019t a single woman who wouldn\u2019t be delighted
\nto be caressed gently and carefully while you take your time
\nexploring her erogenous zones, right?<\/p>\n
When it comes to sex in general, the difference between men and women is striking:
\nFor men, sex is mainly about the time spent penetrating,
\nbut for women, it\u2019s about the whole experience, isn\u2019t it?
\nFrom the relationship with your partner, to how you build up to that moment, to the way you\u2019re caressed.<\/p>\n
Even with a guy you thought was cool before your first hotel date, or a guy you liked,
\nhaven\u2019t you ever had the experience of him being sloppy with foreplay, or giving you cunnilingus for just five minutes\u2014leaving you completely dry\u2014and then immediately penetrating you, which totally killed the mood?<\/p>\n
If you\u2019ve ever thought even once, \u201cHe doesn\u2019t seem to like going down on me\u201d or \u201cHe seems to be forcing himself,\u201d
\nyou can\u2019t ask him to do it yourself, and even if you really want him to go down on you more, you end up holding back, right?
\nI think women are generally more attuned to their partner\u2019s subtle cues than men are, and their emotions can be quite complex.<\/p>\n
What about the opposite? A \u201ccunnilingus enthusiast\u201d who absolutely loves going down on you.
\nWith gentle, careful tonguework, he focuses on the spots where you react with pleasure,
\nand if he keeps it up like that,
\nyou\u2019ll start to think, \u201cHe\u2019s licking me so deliciously,\u201d
\n\u201cHe\u2019s been licking me the whole time without saying a word\u2026 he really loves this,\u201d
\n\u201cHe\u2019s been licking for an hour already, but he doesn\u2019t seem to be getting bored at all,\u201d
\nYou\u2019ll feel at ease with this \u201clicking dog,\u201d
\nand with your eyes closed, the tension in both your body and mind will melt away, allowing you to focus entirely on the pleasure.<\/p>\n
In my opinion, a woman\u2019s sensitivity increases when she feels \u201cloved\u201d and \u201ccherished.\u201d<\/p>\n
On top of that, when it comes to a man\u2019s tongue technique, it\u2019s not just about whether he\u2019s skilled or not\u2014
\nit\u2019s also very important whether he \u201cactually enjoys the act of serving\u201d in the first place.<\/p>\n
When it comes to a woman\u2019s orgasm,
\nit\u2019s actually quite common for a technique that worked best for her last time\u2014let\u2019s call it \u201cA\u201d\u2014
\nto be less pleasurable than a different technique, let\u2019s call it \u201cB,\u201d this time around.<\/p>\n
This happens not just with cunnilingus, but with fingering as well.
\nYou might find yourself thinking, \u201cHuh? Last time, this part felt best at this pace, and this movement worked best\u2026\u201d
\n(Though I don\u2019t do fingering unless the woman specifically asks for it.)
\nIt also seems that sensations can change if she hasn\u2019t been sexually active for a while (and is starting to forget what an orgasm feels like).
\nIt really makes you appreciate the mysteries of the human body.<\/p>\n
To put it simply,
\nmen absolutely need the ability to sense a woman\u2019s subtle cues,
\nand to become the best cunnilingus partner for a woman, you should have the feeling of \u201cI want to do this for her.\u201d
\nIn other words, my view is that unless you\u2019re a submissive man, you\u2019ll eventually end up engaging in self-centered behavior.
\nHaving that feeling of \u201cI want to do this for her\u201d
\nallows him to keenly sense her reactions and engage in trial and error\u2014thinking, \u201cMaybe this licking technique would be better next, or does she prefer this?\u201d\u2014
\nso he can constantly strive to provide service that satisfies her.
\nFurthermore, seeing the \u201clicking dog\u201d\u2019s devoted demeanor allows the woman to surrender herself more fully to pleasure, creating a synergistic effect.<\/p>\n
I don\u2019t even know why I started spouting such high-brow ideas on a perverted blog like this.<\/p>\n
I started writing this because I realized there are still many women out there struggling with the same issues as the one in this post.<\/p>\n
Even women who are nervous or tense during our first meeting\u2014
\nwithin an hour of me starting to please her\u2014
\nwill grab my face or hair and press me against her, or squeeze me between her thighs while moving her hips.
\nWhen she actually says, \u201cThat feels good, keep going,\u201d
\nI truly feel that I\u2019m being useful as a \u201clicking dog,\u201d and I feel joy from the bottom of my heart.<\/p>\n
Sorry to keep you waiting.<\/p>\n
Here\u2019s the video.
\nI didn\u2019t realize it until I watched the video back, but I have bedhead\u2014so embarrassing\u2026<\/span>
\nI was staying overnight for work, took a shower, and fell asleep right away, so when we met afterward, I looked like this.<\/span><\/p>\n
\n59:00 \u2013\n<\/div>\n